One week you’re enjoying crisp fall mornings, and the next you’re staring down a calendar filled with parties, school programs, shopping lists, and endless to-dos. If the thought of it makes your chest tighten just a little, you’re not alone. The holiday season has a way of sneaking up on us, even when we swear, we’re going to “be prepared this year!”
The good news? You don’t have to do it all at once. Tiny, intentional changes now can make the coming weeks far less stressful and much more joyful. Here are three simple practices to ease into the season without losing your peace of mind.
1. Plan Now
I know, I know. Planning feels like the opposite of “fun” sometimes. But getting a clear view of the next 10 weeks can be a game changer. Pull out your calendar, whether it’s paper or digital, and start mapping out the essentials: parties, work deadlines, school events, travel, or anything else you can anticipate.
When you can see it all laid out, you’ll be able to make smarter choices about what to say yes to and more importantly, what to say no to. You might be delighted to discover pockets of free time to dedicate to rest, reflection, or those little holiday rituals that make the season feel sacred rather than stressful.
Personal note: I have four trips in the next ten weeks! I’ll be taking this tip to heart as I map out the rest of Q4! What about you?
2. Make a Heck Yes or Heck No List
Once your calendar is in front of you, it’s time for a little boundary work. Create two columns: Heck Yes and Heck No. Everything that makes your heart light up, brings you joy, or truly matters goes in the Heck Yes column. Everything else goes in Heck No. And here’s the golden rule: if it’s a maybe, it’s a no.
This isn’t about being rigid—it’s about protecting your energy. Maybe there’s a work party that feels obligatory, a craft project you’ve never enjoyed, or a social commitment that leaves you drained. By giving yourself permission to say no, you make space for the things that actually matter to you, your family, and your community. You might even feel lighter just writing that list.
Personal note: Over the years, I’ve stopped doing things I thought I “had” to do including sending holiday cards, putting up a Christmas tree every year and going to a dozen parties each December! It’s been SO freeing to let those obligations go. What are you ready to say “no” to?
3. Shop Early
Whether you love giving gifts or dread the last-minute scramble, starting early can save a lot of stress. Think about what would feel meaningful for the people you love—gifts that nourish, delight, or create lasting memories. Start browsing now, rather than waiting until the last week before the holidays when stores are crowded and shipping is delayed.
And if you’re looking for thoughtful, ready-to-give options, consider giving a little magic from one of your favorite creative entrepreneurs—handmade with love by me here in the majestic mountains of Asheville, North Carolina.
- For your favorite reader: My award-winning Sacred Celebrations book is perfect for anyone wanting to make the season more intentional and joyful. Get a signed copy from my website OR order from Bookshop or Amazon.
- For the jewelry lover in your life: My gemstone bracelets (bring on the bling!) are designed to uplift and inspire.
- For the person who loves an experiential gift: Explore my custom ritual-in-a-box gift boxes—whether a house blessing set or a self-care kit for busy women, each item is curated to bring calm and meaning into the season.
Shopping early doesn’t just save your sanity; it also allows you to choose gifts with intention, ones that feel personal and aligned with the love and care you want to share. Remember to #shoplocal whether it’s with me or other entrepreneurs and artisans that you love!
A Gentle Reminder
The holiday season doesn’t have to be a whirlwind of stress, perfection, or endless running around. By taking a few small, mindful steps now—planning, curating your yeses and noes, and shopping early—you set yourself up to enjoy the moments that truly matter.
What tiny changes will you employ to save your holiday sanity this year? Send me an email so I can cheer you on!