Something’s changing around here (the good kind). I have some news. If you read my newsletter regularly, you’ve seen it coming. If you only catch an e-zine here or there, let me catch you up. After more than two decades of writing to you about self-care, rituals, resilience, and work/life balance—I’m making a shift. As you probably know, I’m an adoptee who met my birthfamily in 1999. I found my birthmom, birthdad and ELEVEN brothers and sisters. That experience—finding my people, building relationships from scratch, navigating the beautiful and complicated terrain of reunion—changed everything about how I understand identity, belonging, and what it means to come home to yourself. Then, after becoming an adoptive parent to our beloved Riley, we reunited with her birthdad and his family in 2020. It’s been a joy getting to know him/them AND watch our daughter blossom in her own identity development, experiencing genetic mirroring and knowing her biological family’s history in ways that I was never privy to in my own experience. I’ve been writing my next book, Living in Reunion, for more than two years now. I’ve interviewed more than 65 people in the adoption constellation—adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents—and I am more convinced than ever that this community needs more voices, more resources, and more grace. (More on that last word soon.) So, here’s what’s coming: Starting this fall, I’ll be writing and sending my newsletter from Substack—a platform built for writers and readers who want to go deeper on this topic. My new home there will be focused on adoption reunion, identity, belonging, and what it really means to build healthy relationships across the full constellation of family.
Here are a few articles to give you a sense of what I’m sharing over there. Please comment over on Substack OR leave a comment and let me know what resonates with you!
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You don’t have to do a single thing right now. I’ll be in touch again before the move with all the details. But I did want to give you a heads up—and a chance to feel whatever you feel about it. (Change is change, even the good kind.) If this direction lights you up and you want to come along for the ride—I am so glad. If it’s not your thing, no hard feelings whatsoever. You’ve been such a good and generous audience, and I’m grateful for every single one of you. 